Sunday 25 July 2010

Open to abuse: Did being molested as a baby make Rebecca Moran an easier target for sex offenders later in life?

Hmmm. I don't want to court controversy on this subject, because I know that the idea that people who have been abused are going to suffer a lifetime of psychological trauma is a truism to the vast majority of people (small though that number might be), who spend the time to think about the subject. It's a "truth" so true that, much like the Earth orbiting the Sun, it doesn't even need to be stated. Except it's not true. A thing is scary when it is out of the ordinary; when one cannot see the purpose; and when one perceives from the surrounding circumstances that one is being given no choice, despite one's misgivings.

Open to abuse: Did being molested as a baby make Rebecca Moran an easier target for sex offenders later in life?

However... If one perceives a person who has been abused as a victim, then one will treat them like a victim, and they will become a victim, because they've been given no other choice. It's the simplest form of indoctrination. My advice to anybody who has been abused is this: perceive yourself to be a victim, if you like, but remember that it is your choice, and the people who have to see you as a victim in order to have somebody to punish (your abuser), are no better than your abuser, because they're perpetuating the abuse, long after it has ceased, and they are no more able to change their behaviour than your abuser was.

Oh, if you need an alternative to being a victim, then I suggest that you don't go for "survivor," either. Start a blog, and call yourself a blogger. Start jogging, and call yourself a runner. The choice is yours - just be wary of those who need you to be a victim.

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